One of my hurdles for past years has been trying to find direction for myself personally and my business.
It’s taken me over 3 years from the start of the journey, and I still don’t think i am quite there yet.
To be perfectly honest I would never have thought it would be such a long process, everyone else seems to have found their direction did it really take them that long ??
Whatever the answer is, I have come to realize that having a purpose is the core to everything else that I do and such an important thing to find out about myself. It feels like now, rather than jumping from place to place and “going with the flow” – everything now just seems to falls into place in many various areas of my life.
If you are at crossroads in your life OR business, I definitely put to you that you MUST MAKE TIME to work through these issues.
Once your focus, purpose, direction (whatever you wish to call it) is established, it will drive you, fulfill you and very importantly you will recognize when you are spending time, money on things that are not important.
So how do you / I do it ?
There is not one specific thing that has helped me like anything worth doing you have to do the hard yards and there is no magic bullet. However, here are 3 tips I can offer that have certainly helped me:
Trust your gut instincts
If you are not getting passionate, enjoying or getting excited about things in your life: whether that is a task or project or event/person: listen to this and trust THIS.If you have a feeling there is something “off” with it or you simply don’t want to do it or put it off..
This is YOU telling YOU that it’s something that needs to be looked at, the first step is to listen.
I am not saying that you ALWAYS have to be doing what you love, but maybe a way you can change how you are doing something to free up your time.
Maybe could can streamline the way your doing it, get your kids to help so its a task you can all do together or pass it onto someone else. YOU can give yourself permission to decide if you let yourself! 
Just the same if there is something that DOES excite you – acknowledge and recongnise this thing and trust that this is something you should look into further.
2. Write in a journal
I have found that regularly writing has helped me immensely, it just seems to allow me to get all the guff out of my head so I can think clearly and concentrate. Writing any thoughts that are circling around up there just feels good, it could be connected with the kids, work, clients, life or nothing at all very important, just getting down on paper it means you can purge it.
3. Adopting behaviours or tricking yourself in to believing it to be so, and eventually you will be.
If there is something you want to be ie. An artist, test yourself out, call yourself an artist, if someone asks what you do say”I am artist”. Act like an artist, do things that artists do. You will be surprised how this works in so many varying areas, you will soon start thinking and acting like the thing you say you want to do or be.
- Another thing is to pretend to write an article or an advertisement about you and what you do, even if you dont show anyone or do anything about it. You will be surprised about how thinking and writing about yourself in this way will define your way of thinking in the future.It’s all a process, its not something you will come out of believing 100% at the time, but slowly and gradually without noticing you will catch yourself out without realizing it acting and behaving in a way giving you what you want.
So there are a few things that have worked for me, as I said before I feel like I still have a bit of a way to go, but i definately now know what to focus my energies on, whats important to me whats not, and that gives me direction of where to go or at least a starting point – one foot in front of the other and all that
